Neil Denny presents "Conversational Riffs"  

Live event in London N1 : after the success of this event in November 2009 we are aiming to repeat this event with Neil Denny (now a published author) in London again soon.

Understanding the 'drama triangle' and how you can keep communicating through even the most entrenched conflict situations will not only resolve differences but enable you to strengthen relationships with family, colleagues and friends at the very moment when most at risk.

Hands up – how many of us are guilty of leaving a difficult issue for sooo long that when it becomes a crisis, it can’t possibly be our fault? How many times have you - perhaps as your partner walked through the door after a day in the office or on the road - launched into them, seemingly without provocation, whilst demanding that they bathe the children or tackle the growing pile of ironing?

What was their response? Did you feel better when they snapped back in their own defence that they had been at work since 7am, or that the evening drinks was an essential part of the working day? “Excuses, excuses” you may well have thought to yourself, or fired off out loud. Were you even listening to the response, or were you too busy rolling around another line of attack in your head, which may have started: ‘You never do...’ or ‘You always have to...’ implying they aren’t capable of change? Were you surprised when they fired back their own missile to defend themselves?  

The above scenario is typical of what happens in households up and down the country, and one which most people can recall happening to them - perhaps more recently and frequently than we would care to admit. But it also takes place in other relationships outside of families eg. with parents and colleagues at work. It represents a behaviour which revolves around lines of Attack, Defence and Counterattack.

Neil Denny describes this brilliantly in his presentation and his book of the same name called 'Conversational Riffs’  and he points out that in conflict, we can’t be to blame. We dash around what’s called a ‘Drama Triangle’ moving from being the victim; to becoming the villain and the rescuer too and then back to being the victim again. The person with whom we are in conflict takes on these roles too, at different times. Click here to order on-line from our recommended resources page.

In 'Conversational Riffs’  Neil suggests better ways of resolving conflict which will give you a happier outcome – a win/win outcome. How useful would it be if you were to learn easy to learn tools which make an immediate difference to even the most entrenched conflict situations?

Neil Denny and Breakup Angels invite you to'Conversational Riffs’ to learn how to keep communicating through conflict situations, in a way that will not only resolve differences, but enable you to strengthen  relationships with colleagues, clients, friends at the very moment when they are most at risk.

Feedback from our last 'Conversational Riffs' event

Thanks for inviting me, really enjoyed it – Bally Binning  

Thank you for your interesting and well organised event. Neil’s engaging delivery of conflict resolution using  ‘Conversational riffs’ helps to unravel, how to identify the hidden messages of conflict and arrive to a solution in an effective manner that is based on mutual understanding and respect. 'Conversational Riffs' can really work for all types of relationships. Neil's passion, experience and knowledge of conflict resolution makes him an outstanding presenter. Johanna Kokko from Dadshouse  

A few evenings ago I attended a talk given by Neil on the subject of Conversational Riffs, and I found him to be a very good speaker who presented some very clear and highly useful tools for improving both inter-personal and professional communications. As an experienced professional Hypnotherapist I recognise the value and thoroughly approve of Neil's approach to his work in helping people to recognise the negative and unproductive patterns of communication that we can all too easily fall into. He offers a clear and accessible route map for making better choices in our responses to others, which can be put into action in ones' daily life in a natural and straight forward way. Cheyne Towers Greatvine.com Health & Wellbeing expert

Q: Who is this for? 

A: For everyone: Single, Married, Divorced, Living Together. The important thing is that you wish to learn more about communicating through any sort of relationship conflict. Come on your own, with a friend, or as a couple. 

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Testimonials

"Neil’s approach to helping us all resolve conflicts constructively and effectively really works. Not only that, he’s a great speaker and gets the whole audience participating. It was so good people wouldn’t leave and we had to turn out the lights to get them going! – Richard Hill, E-CRM

“Neil is an inspirational man with an extraordinary gift in creative conflict resolution. Very original and effective pioneering approach.” – Georgeanne Lamont of Lamont Associates

“Neil’s not only very passionate about ‘conversational riffs’ but has a wonderfully light way of presenting a potentially highly charged topic and engaging his audience throughout, generously offering an outstanding and practical resolution toolkit for any conflict. A ‘must’ for everyone who is interested in advanced communications and relationship development of any kind.” – Ute Christopher, Ecademy

“You are clearly talented and gifted at speaking.  You have a great grasp on your subject, a broad knowledge and a very relaxed but engaging delivery.” – Martin Baldwin Associates

“A must for big business.” – Rob Hook

About Neil Denny

Neil Denny is a writer and presenter on conflict issues as well as being a Consultant divorce solicitor specialising in the field of family law, working for Mogers Solicitors in Bath.  Over the last 3 years Neil has been drawing upon his experiences within law and his research into communications and conflict dynamics to develop the concepts of “Embracing Conflict” and “Conversational Riffs”.  He now writes frequently on conflict issues and prepares and presents training and keynote events to organisations on how individuals, teams and companies communicate when faced with conflict and disagreements. Read more here on the Conversational Riffs website.

Read about Neil's book Conversational Riffs here and order on-line today.

If you have any questions, please contact Breakup Angels here or read our article on Wikizine here to learn more.

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